The Sweet Revenge of a Broken Heart

Have you experienced to love and get dumped? It hurts, isn’t it? But your life never ends there. As saying goes, “Move on and get over it”. So easy to say but so hard to do but if you’ll try, there’s nothing to lose. Have you ever asked yourself if how many times you’ve been in love? In that instance, how sure are you that the love you’ve felt is really a true love? According to psychology, there are kinds or types of love:

 Eros is romantic, passionate, love—what Tennov labeled limerence. In this type of relationship, love is life's most important thing. Lee said a search for physical beauty or an ideal type also typifies this type of love.

Ludus is a game-playing or uncommitted love. Lying is part of the game. A person who pursues ludic love may have many conquests but remains uncommitted.

Storge (STORE-gay) is a slow developing, friendship-based loved. People with this type of relationship like to participate in activities together. Often storge results in a long-term relationship in which sex might not be very intense or passionate.

Pragma is a pragmatic, practical, mutually beneficial relationship. It may be somewhat unromantic. A person who leans toward this type of relationship may look for a partner at work or where the person is spending time. Sex is likely to be seen as a technical matter needed for producing children, if they are desired.

Mania is an obsessive or possessive love, jealous and extreme. A person in love this way is likely to do something crazy or silly, such as stalking. The movie Fatal Attraction was about this type.

Agape (a-GOP-aye) is a gentle, caring, giving type of love, brotherly love, not concerned with the self. It is relatively rare. Mother Theresa showed this kind of love for impoverished people.

 Now, you can answer the questions above. In which type of love to your partner did you fall? Now, let’s go to “moving on”. I know that it’s tough to move on but it’s a process. I have some tips on how to move on from a heart break. Here are some:

1. Go through it, not around it.

2. Detach and revel in your independence again.

3. List your strengths.

4. Allow some fantasizing.

5. Help someone else.

6. Laugh. And cry.

7. Make a good and bad list.

8. Work it out.

9. Create a new world.

10. Find hope.

No matter what we do, we cannot avoid the existence of love. It’s sweet to love, yes, but painful to be fooled, yes again. But they say that you will never know you’ve loved if you don’t go through the painful moments of it. Just enjoy and do whatever makes you happy. Let the one who broke your heart see you as a brand new person. For the girls out there, be beautiful for him to regret that he left you. Stay pretty and happy!